By Neepa Sevak
Anger is an instinctive human sentiment to circumstances beyond our control, our lack of ability to emotionally deal with certain situations. Each one of us has lived through anger at some moment whether as a transitory frustration or as a progressive wrath. Depending on how it is articulated, anger can have constructive or harmful consequences. Positive angry thoughts can help you survive a crisis and resolve the situation in a practical manner, whereas, negative anger feelings can trigger hostile, uncontrollable, violent behaviors. Anger can be a self-protective reaction to underlying fears, dissatisfaction, hopelessness, or frustration. Some people find it difficult to communicate their anger, some can burst out with rage, whereas for some it can surface habitually. When anger holds up your aptitude to think or function plainly, it gets in the way of your personal or professional interactions, begets violence, and others get flustered by your rage, you may possibly be ill with an Anger syndrome which must be treated without delay.
Types of Anger
- Anger from mortification: These people have an underprivileged self-esteem, which they mask by rebuking and dishonoring others.
- Atrocious Anger: These people feel insecure, unreasonably vulnerable by others, and anger is an avenue of self-defense. They imagine that others are angry instead of recognizing their own wrath.
- Expectation Anger: These people have a negative outlook and have unrealistic expectations of themselves and from others. Their root of anger is not accepting people as they are.
- Forestalling Anger: These people are terrified of their own anger, or the anger of others. They are fearful of losing control and feel protected in peaceful situations.
- Revulsion Anger: These people have an unresolved sentiment of anger, which causes resentment and they become hostile towards those they cannot forgive.
- Impulsive Anger: These people feel loss of control and hence they are aggressive, go like a bullet, and can be a threat to themselves and others. Their actions are impulsive, for which they are later repentant.
- Premeditated Anger: These people contemplate their anger, they like controlling others, and they get what they want by intimidating or overpowering others.
- Principled Anger: These people are fanatics, self-opinionated and uncompromising. They do not comprehend other people and get heated when others not pass their expectations.
- Obsessed Anger: These people get psychologically thrilled and find pleasure from their strong feelings of anger. They get angry frequently even at insignificant trifles, which tarnishes their relationships.
- Underhanded Anger: These people by no means expose their anger. Their anger is exhibited in devious ways like disregarding things and others, frustrating others, mislaying their own requirements.
Causes of Anger
- Fear, anxiety, depression.
- Feelings of hurt, disrespect, humiliation, embarrassment, dissatisfaction, jealousy, and sadness.
- Unable to forgive and forget.
- Lack of appreciation, feelings of rejection.
- Lack of control or controlling nature.
- Unfriendly, violent parents or other family members.
- Physical or sexual abuse.
- Substance abuse.
- Media violence.
Symptoms of Anger
- Bad temper, rudeness, violence, loss of control
- Self-stimulation, obsession, compulsion, withdrawal, unpredictable behavior
- Anxiety, restlessness, frustration, depression or nervous breakdown
- Pessimistic and vindictive attitude
- Easily offended
- Inability to act or think rationally
- Difficulty managing personal, social and professional rapport
- Drug, alcohol, gambling, smoking or other addictions
- Eating disorders
- Flushed face
- Rapid pulse, increased blood pressure
- Shortness of breath
- Tightness of jaws and fist
- Nervous twitching or shaking of body
- Self harm
- Suicidal thoughts or suicide
Homeopathic Approach to Anger
Self Care Measures for Anger
- Learn to recognize as well as acknowledge your anger and identify the cause of it.
- Identify the situations that provoke you.
- Take the help of a close family member or friend and communicate your anger emotions with them.
- Exercise regularly and practice deep breathing exercises, meditation, and yoga.
- Develop hobbies like listening to music, reading books, painting, writing, etc.
- Reduce the intensity of your anger with a solitary period of silence and rest when you recognize the signs of anger.
- During an outburst analyze your alternatives for behaving and envision how you may react. Be aware that you are accountable for your anger and actions.
- Release all shame and guilt and replace your negative behaviors with more positive actions.
- Develop a sense of wittiness.
- Avoid alcohol, drugs and any other addictives.
- Focus on responsibilities one at a time and proceed towards larger objectives when you are ready.
- Take your time fixing your problems
- Put into practice what you moralize to your children.
- Always remember one thing that you cannot control the behavior of others and pardoning is not overlooking, it is recalling and letting go.
Too much antagonism will jeopardize your personal, social, professional life and your overall health. If you are noticing that your anger level is on the high, then consider Homeopathy and be healthy, happy, calm, focused, behave better and become rage free. Control your anger before it controls you.